Once you are in a relationship you start feeling a special bonding with your partner and start sharing your partner’s happiness and sorrow. Try to do things that make your partner elated. Doing thing somewhere we start sacrificing our own feelings up to some extent without noticing. But when this relationship turns into marriage, sometimes one partner tries to dominate.
This is a common phenomenon that people meet and fall in love with each other; discuss everything, how they feel and what they think about each other. But as the time passes by it becomes a part of your life. You stop making efforts to make your relationship flourish, especially when kids come into both of your life. You engaged with other things or places; do not get time to spend with your spouse. You start concentrating the mediums to earn more money to support your family. At the end of the day, you are completely drained just to collapse on the bed.
It is true that a good married life needs a person to lead and the other to follow, but there is a thin line between leading and dominating. It is harmful for one partner to keep all the power because this is not an equivalent partnership, and it can be difficult to open up his or her feeling for the other partner in such an atmosphere. It is important to let your partner know that you care for the needs and happiness of your partner.
Sometimes it’s only an indicator or upcoming crisis in your relationship and once the children enter into the world to study or to get a job, it seems to you that you are no more familiar with the person you are living for years.
You are not the one in such situation, in fact, a large number of relationships face the same situation at one or another point in their lifetime. Some honestly try to know what went wrong and its solution to connect with their spouse in the same way as in the earlier days of their relationship. For such people it is the effort before losing hope.
Some of them take one-step ahead and decide to try marriage counseling while many may think that counseling is the last resort and a sign of the end of the relationship. Such thinking may leave people with a relationship that becomes hard to revive.
But you may wonder about the benefits to spare time to talk with a counselor who is completely stranger and know nothing about your relationship. But this stranger (the counselor) can provide you the much needed insight into that procedure. Couples who have gone through the marriage counseling can tell you about the positive impact of counseling on the different aspect of their life.
One major roadblock one can face in counseling is when one partner is ready to participate in the counseling process and not committed to saving their relationship anymore. There may be many reasons, and to make the counseling process successful the consent of the both partners is necessary, both partners should be equally willing to save their marriage.
There can be years of disappointment in a relationship that now has found a reason to erupt. Perhaps you have stopped doing things together unless it is an important family function or some important chores of the house. Perhaps you want your spouse to defend you sometimes.
The sooner you sense the stress between you two that is gradually destroying your relationship, the sooner you can do something to reverse the problems. Sometimes it is hard to engage your partner in a positive discussion about the issues, but staying calm, patient and honest, while talking to him or her; you have better chances of repairing the relationship. A counselor can help if this conversation is too difficult to have on your own; sometimes it is useful just to be begun on the procedure of being sincere with your spouse.