In most studies on stress, it has shown that a divorce ranks even higher on a stress scale than losing a loved one, or the death of a friend. Most people don't know how to properly go through a relationship breakup.
The breaking up and end of most relationships will always be painful, and stressful. Even if it's one that needs to end and is not healthy to be in. You've spent a lot of time and emotion with your partner, and even if you're the one ending it, this still comes with a lot of hurt feelings.
Obviously, it can be even worse if you're the one being dumped. Any relationship breakup that you don't want to end or even expected to happen can be very painful to go through. What you have to keep in mind is that a relationship needs two consenting people that wish to be in it. You may want it to go on, but if your partner has decided to call it quits, you may have to consider the fact that your relationship needs to end.
There is help though.
Here are some techniques that can be used to ease the pain of almost any relationship breakup. There is several methods to outline here that have been proven to relieve the stress of a broken heart and ease the pain as you move past the hurt.
- Step One: Figure Out Why - You need to know the core reasons why your relationship has ended. This doesn't matter if you were the one breaking up or the one being broken up with. Either way you need to realize, understand, or even figure out what the reasons are for the breakup.
- Step Two: Get Rid of Reminders - You need space and time between you and your partner that you have just ended it with, or been dumped by. No going to bed each night hanging onto your ex's old belongings or staring at their old photos. You need to clean house and eliminate your space and mind of your ex entirely. Not permanently, but just remove them out of sight and determine later if these items should be removed for good. It's important and healthy to make a clean break, so you need to put all those little reminders away!
- Step Three: Positive People - If you've just been involved in a relationship breakup, it's time to get out of the negative place you're naturally going to find yourself in, and start surrounding yourself with positive places, people, and things. There are negative people in the world, and then there are positive people in the world. You know who they are. So go out and find them so that you can spend as much time as you can being around them and in a positive environment. This combination with the previous two steps, puts you in the beginning of being in the right place to move on.
- Step Four: Start Dating Again - The final step that is probably the most important one for you to start recovering from a relationship break up, is to start dating other people. Before you panic and start shouting that you don't want anyone else, that it's your ex you only want, and no one else... the important thing to remember about this step is that you're not trying to replace your ex. You're merely trying to start seeing things in a new perspective without them. A date can be a friendly social thing and not a love interest. Meeting new people does not have to be about rebounding to a new love interest. It is only about being able to move on and see other folks.
Don't look at every date as a potential love interest. Just look at the dating new folks as a chance to get your mojo back, and relieve some of that stress. Have fun and take a chance! You might actually find some new and interesting people to have fun with or even more...
The four steps outlined here will have you mending the pain over your relationship breakup in no time flat. But keep in mind; you don't necessarily have to get over a break up. Sometimes good relationships fall apart for the wrong reasons, and you can fix the damage. You just need to find the right plan.