Keeping a Relationship

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If any one asks you to explain how their relationships started, many people like you wuold find it a bit too much of a push.  few would give details of how they think it happened, but surprisingly, none would give a full account without the input of their partners.


This situation may arise due but not necessarily diverse objectives and goals at the start of the relationship. When people meet for the first time, and the subsequent times, they form an opinion about each other. Rarely, if ever it happens, do two people form similar opinions. On the initial meeting, one person may perceive the other party as a suitable party-partner or clubbing mate while that other partner perceives them as potential marriage mate.


While they all focus on different aspects and objectives, rarely do they discuss their feelings about each other together until it is too late. They begin discovering themselves when deep in the relationship, rifts start emerging and feelings for other people outside their union start developing.


Do people always unite due to love? The answer tot his one cannot be a clear yes or no. It may be either or both. To some people, love starts early in their relationship, others have to put in extra efforts to develop sizeable feelings.


Although, commonly argued that people in love have mutual feelings for each other, rarely do these feelings match up. One person, many times, gives more and receives less compared to their partner, who might be holding on to some feelings for someone else. In a relationship, some people struggle to love their partners while the partner loves then effortlessly. Bearing in mind what you mean for each other, it is wise to struggle all you can you make your partner feel loved and appreciate. Reciprocate most of what they do to you, assuming that you where getting into their shoes.


Do feelings of love last forever? At times, yes, but not always. There are times in a relationship when all is uphill. When every aspect of love requires huge efforts to accomplish, and when your partner does not look as interesting as before. These are the times when the fain-hearted loose their grip and start scavenging around for other bonds; bonds to fill the empty space they feel within. The effect here is a weaker relationship which many times die. Some unique thing may be working very well for you, but whichever way you look at it, you should never try to work down what is working well for both of you. As you look to explore other areas of your relationship, ensure what you are used to is well taken care of and achieved, this will help you in scaling new heights.


Your lover should be your greatest friend, the friend you share with every aspect of life and the one you always hold dear. It can never be perfect but avoid unearthing the ugliness of your affair. In as much as your weaknesses are known to you, try to work on them quietly without causing a big strive of them. The more you negatively portray your weaknesses, the less likely it is you will work them out. This may be a key to the end. Like what you are doing if it is not causing harm. As it is commonly said, 'what is working does not need to be fixed'. Carefully beware of what you venture into. What you do not know, be wary of discovering or unearthing it, it may be the devil.


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This article was published on 2010/08/09
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