Over the last two weeks, I have had the opportunity to spend time with a life coach. During our conversation we had the chance to discuss various issues of life – business, career, family and relationships. One of the most interesting issues was in the area of relationships; the relationships between introverts and extroverts.
So in this article, I share my views on the subject. I am no expert in the area of relationships but I sure have some opinions. At least my experience gives me some insight into the issues of relationships.
Relationships are hard no matter what personality type you are. Two people brought up under different circumstances will always have to make adjustments to get along if they want to succeed. While some are more adept to get along pretty well, others still struggle to make the necessary compromises to ensure that both parties are satisfied in one way or the other.
When it comes to issues of introversion and extroversion personality traits many of us have our own misconceptions and how it plays out in a love relationship. Some say an introvert will be better off with an extrovert. Others say a relationship between people of the same personality trait will not survive. And we usually back it up with a popular physics theory “like poles repel”.
For example, two introverts will both be bored with each other because naturally introverts are mostly quiet or two extroverts will not make it because extroverts are generally dominant and as a result may result in too many conflicts. But if they are of different traits, they relationship is balanced and they have a better chance at succeeding.
While this may be true to some extent, it is not always valid. Coach Robyn in her article, A Classic Introvert – Silence is Golden, mentioned that there is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. In other words, all traits have a bit of the other in them. For example, an introvert may be shy at first and say a few words, but will open up and can be very interesting to be with. An extrovert on the other hand, easily mingles and starts the conversation even on the first date.
There are also those who find themselves in the middle of the continuum. They are neither introverts nor extroverts. They are referred to as ambiverts. All personality can reach this point through training or practice. An introvert can learn the skills of extroverts and the other way round. This I believe should be the goal of all of us. It will go a long way in helping us achieve a better and balanced relationship with ourselves and our partners.