You just went through a devastating breakup some time ago but you feel you are completely over it now and is feeling better. You started to enjoy living your life and being with your friends or maybe even dating other women. The problem is that you find yourself always comparing every girl you meet to your ex girlfriend. You have been thinking about the idea of getting your ex back. But, is it possible?
If this is a story you are familiar with or you can relate with, you must realize that the relationship you had with your ex girlfriend is now history. If she is with someone else now and you attempt to get her back then you'll be way out of line. It doesn't mean that because you both shared something before, you have the right to simply pick her up again. You need to respect that she is with someone else and just observe from a distance.
The best thing you can do is in a subtle way find out about her and the relationship she is in. The duration of their relationship, if its solid or not, is she truly happy, or if she may still be interested in you or not? You need to make an effort in finding these things out without getting in the way of their relationship.
It is also important that you keep an open mind in dealing with these things because getting her back is not a sure thing especially if she's happy now. Don't heighten you expectations or build your hopes up to avoid getting hurt and disappointed if things fall apart in the end. You need to accept the outcome no matter what it is and just build on the fact that you tried your best.
A good way to start is to talk with your common friends about her and her new relationship.
If you know that she is happy now and the relationship she is in seems to be going stronger then it is best that you back out and just be happy for her. This may seem difficult on your part but you have to accept things as they are.
However, if you hear from your friends that your ex-girlfriend’s relationship seems to be shaky then investigate a little more. Find out if there is truth to what you hear again in a subtle way.
Remember though that you can't actively pursue her while she is in a relationship. What you can do is be a better person overall. Show your ability to change and you can be a man of positivity. If you first take care of things that you can control which is your attitude and outlook in life, then it will not be difficult for her to fall for you especially if you have shown a mature and stable personality.
Lastly, you only have one shot to get her so make sure that it will count.