How to Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back and Don't Just Get Over It

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Breakups are painful, that's common knowledge. But regardless of how we view the breakups of others it never seems to compare to ours, the ones that leave us devastated wondering where and why things went wrong. It doesn't have to be this way, there is a reason that you fell in love and the relationship can be put back together, with a little effort of course. If you want to know how to win your ex girlfriend back I'm here to tell you that it's not impossible, just be patient!

Your friends and family may be telling you to just get over it! She's gone, and who cares! Of course, you care and there is nothing anyone can say to make it feel any different. I know where you're coming from, you can't let go until you're ready, and that's perfectly understandable.

The first thing you need to do is give your ex some space. The overwhelming urge to talk to her every five minutes to explain yourself, apologize, or try to convince her to get back together with you isn't going to get you anywhere. You have to be out of her life in order for her to miss you. Once she misses you is when she's going to be willing to talk.

Giving someone their space is also helpful because it helps them relax a little, figure out their emotions and what it is they're wanting to do next. Crowding her is going to make her to do the exact opposite of what you want. So do yourself a favor: stay away from your cell phone, and computer.

While you're giving her some space do some work on yourself. Get back to the basics, how did you impress her in the first place? Take good care of yourself, be sure to look nice when you leave the house, and be nice to people. Nothing turns a guy off that can't communicate, and that can't be nice. So be sure to watch your tongue.

When you do feel like you're ready to start talking to her again resist the urge to call her. When we talk to people directly it's hard to resist the urge to say things that are going to get us in trouble. Such as, asking her to get back together, making accusations, or begging for forgiveness. None of this is fun. And once again, she'll be running away.

I suggest writing a letter, this allows you to lay out what you want to say without getting sidetracked. Keep it simple and avoid discussing anything about the relationship or getting back together. The point of the letter is to let her know that you're doing good, and you're wishing the same for her. When she sees that you're healthy and happy she's going to want to talk to you. That's where communication comes in, you have to be able to talk to her. Talking will diffuse 90% of all arguments and fights, all women want is someone that can listen.

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When it comes to how to win your ex girlfriend back the ball is in your court. It's up to you to make the right decisions and to take your time. It's not rocket science, it's just learning from your mistakes so you can avoid them in the future.

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This article was published on 2010/04/01
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