That is the question that has been on your mind ever since you broke up, right? It is very hard to get over a break up, especially if the relationship has been very serious. A break up does not mean that everything is suddenly over and you should give up all your efforts. Every relationship, no matter how complex, can be saved.
Well, first of all you need to do some serious thinking. Is the relationship really worth saving? Do you still love your ex wife? Is the passion in our opinion still there? There is not point in trying to get her back, if you are not 120% sure, you even want her back.
If you have decided, that you still want her back no matter what and love here, then the next step is finding out, how she feels about you. Do you believe that she still loves you as you do her? Were the things that caused the break up very serious or were they those little things. If there was some serious issue and you know she does not love you and does not want you back, then you have to move on. But if you believe there is still a change, then keep on trying.
The beginning of a relationship is always fantastic and incredible. There are no real problems, but as time goes on things change. Think back at the time you were both in love and the period were things started to go bad. What changed? Did you pay enough attention to her? Were you too consumed with your work, to by with her?
The next step is to make changes to yourself, so your ex wife would be interested in you again. Take some time off and do not contact your ex wife, during this period try to make yourself the person she fell in love with. If you want to get back with your ex and make the relationship last, then you absolutely have to reduce the negatives and bring on the positives.