How To Save Your Relationship

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There are many situations in which a man cheats on his girlfriend but then feels regret and wants to save the relationship with her. The question here is that, what should he do?


Cheating is a tricky thing, and often, very often, it is a deal breaker, a relationship ender a fatal blow. And with good reason; if there are two people in a relationship together and they've made a promise to each other to stay together and not date others, then you have broken the trust factor in your relationship. Why did you cheat in the first place? And what about the feelings of your girlfriend with whom you are supposedly in love?


Trust is paramount in any relationship. Without it there are two people always wondering what the other is up to. Without trust the respect is lost. Trust begins with simple things such as; I trust that my boyfriend will call me when he says he will, I trust that my boyfriend will act appropriately in front of my parents. Cheating basically takes this trust, crushes it and leaves it for dead on the side of the road. It's not easy to get back. In my experience, even when a relationship does make it through infidelity, the hurt person will not truly trust the other for a very, very long time, if at all.


Why did you cheat in the first place? What brought you to the point where you thought more of yourself than of your girlfriend? Was it because you didn't like her anymore? Were you angry with her? Were you confused about where your relationship was going? Or did you intentionally sabotage your relationship? If you REALLY want to save your relationship, you're going to need to dig deep to find the root cause for your infidelity and only then, can you solve the problem. If you can't figure out why you cheated, you will probably become a chronic cheater.


You claim to love your girlfriend, yet you certainly didn't consider her feelings when you chose someone else to sleep with one night. If you want her back, I must assume that you care for her and respect her, yet you seemed to have forgotten these two things when you chose to cheat on her. Her shattered emotions need to be mended and this may take time. You really shouldn't hurry to get back together. Give her time, be there when she wants to ask you questions, and expect to take some angry words. If you want her back, the best thing to do is admit to your wrongdoing, show her that you will never do it again, and hope that this will be enough. If you are really saying, "I want to save my relationship," then there's no reason why you can't!


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Karen Michele Clark has 1 articles online

While cheating can be considered a death blow for many, many others are able to work through indiscretions and build warm, trusting relationships from the rubble of a broken relationship. Good luck on your journey to win her back and if you need even more advice, check out my website and learn to love again!

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This article was published on 2010/05/18
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