How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - First Simple Steps

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If your girlfriend has broken up with you and you don't know why, you're probably feeling confused, hurt, angry - a whole range of emotions are going through you. But probably the main thing you're wondering is "What do I do next?" Most people in this situation first start wondering what is the answer to the question "How to get your ex girlfriend back?". That's a perfectly normal thought process in this situation. However, you must understand that getting your ex-girlfriend back may or may not be possible. A lot of it depends on the circumstances of the breakup - exactly what caused it to happen.

If the breakup was a complete shock to you, it obviously indicates that there had been some significant detachment between you and your girlfriend for quite a while.

What you need right away is a "cooling off" period between the two of you. That means a week or two without contacting each other. One thing you should do during this time is to ask person who was friends with both of you to contact your ex-girlfriend and try to find out more about what caused the break-up. If you can get some details, you will be able to better determine if there is a possibility of a reconciliation.

What you definitely shouldn't do at this point is attempt to contact your ex and speak directly. There is still too much emotional turmoil going on within you to make any conversation with her meaningful and productive. Also, try not to isolate at home. Get out with your friends and try to be social. It may be tough, but it will make you feel better and perhaps get you out of your depressed state of mind.

After you have determined whether a reconciliation is in the cards, you can start to think about putting together a step-by-step plan for getting your ex back into your life. Believe it or not, there are several guides available on the market that take you through a step-by-step reconciliation process and cover a variety of situations. Of course, reconciliation is never a "sure thing", but these guides have proven to work for others in your situation. Some details about these guides can be found at the end of this article.

In general, you want to start by making a list of some of your own actions that may have cased the break-up. Now id not the time to blame your ex, if you want to get her back. Be honest with yourself, and look at how you treated her, how you communicated with her, how (or even if) you showed her that you loved her on a regular basis. Once you have a better idea of your role in the breakup, you'll know more about whether a reconciliation is worth pursuing. Your "honesty list", along with any information you can get through a mutual friend of your ex's state of mind should be enough to either give you closure on the relationship, or hope that a reconciliation just might be possible.

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It is possible to reconcile with an ex girlfriend if you first educate yourself on the causes of the break up and steps to take to start a reconciliation. If you want to learn how to get girlfriend back, Julie Stives, who specializes in helping couples work out their differences, has a website where she reviews the top guides that teach you how to win an ex back. This can be found at

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This article was published on 2010/04/04
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