Breakups are indeed difficult and sometimes breakups are not meant to last. If the relationship deserves a second chance, there are always ways on how to get back with your ex boyfriend. Sometimes the relationship just needs a breather. When both of you have the time to think about your relationship and realize that you really want the relationship to work, then most probably, you both can build a stronger relationship the second time around.
Even if how badly you want to get back with your ex, don't show that you are needy and desperate to get back with him. Sometimes you think you would do whatever it takes to win an ex boyfriend back but at times it may also become a desperate move. Threatening him with suicide, blackmailing him, gatecrashing his parties, stalking him like a madman or begging him would surely drive him away. The more desperate are your ways on how to get back with your ex boyfriend, the more it would drive him away. Of course, who wants to have a girl who behaves as such.
Let the feelings subside before thinking about doing something. Breakups can bring about a rollercoaster ride of different emotions - anger, hurt, pain, confusion. Of course, you cannot think straight if you are confused with all these emotions. It may not be easy to overcome all the emotions at once but try not to make decisions at this crucial time. However, you should not dwell on this time for too long. Go out with friends and make good use of your time to enjoy what you love doing. Learn a new sport or interest. This will help you at least overcome the feelings of pain and help you in taking control of the situation.
Another thing you should avoid is pestering your ex with so many calls or messages. This is not going to work if you want him back. Give him time to miss you. Give him time to think if he really wants the breakup or not. Show him that you can manage yourself without him. If you can strive to be a better person, it would be a great way to attract him back.
Although you will not get in touch with more often, one tip on how to get back with your ex boyfriend is to show him the better you, but make sure too that he knows or sees the good things you have done. A warning though - do not overdo it. Being obviously showing off to your ex or showing up suddenly on places where your ex usually hangs out may not be a good idea too. Once he gets the idea that you are following him, that would also drive him away. Go out with friends and hang out to places that you can possibly find him.
If everything else fails, avoid forcing yourself to the person. Somehow, there are reasons for breakups and you will never realize it as soon as you will move on with your life.