How to Break Up With Your Partner

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It has to be said before anything else: splitting up with a partner, regardless how you make the break, is in no way a simple task. When you have reached the point when your relationship must come to a close and you realize that the deed must be done, it still doesn't make it any easier to do. But parting with someone you are casually dating is often far simpler than with a loved one you are in a committed relationship with. Regardless, it is still a difficult task.

Though it really is hard to do, you must refrain from putting it off. If you're going to call it quits, you are better off getting it done sooner rather than later. And that's because as time passes, it gets tougher to actually do a full break up, and it will be rougher on your partner when you do. So it's better to get it over with as soon as possible, this way the two of you can both just move on.

It's worthwhile to note that when breaking up with someone, it is very important to be as honest as possible. Some traditional bull like "It's not you, it's me" will probably get you slapped in the face or walked out on. People are for the most part pretty good at telling when they are being lied to, particularly if they know you well (and they probably do, since you've been in a relationship together). In fact, it's very helpful to be completely truthful when breaking up.

So try not come up with a fib story, and refrain from trying to gloss over your reasons for terminating the relationship. Everyone deserves closure as to why they are being broken up with. If you met a someone else, just say so. If there's no firm chemistry, it's okay to articulate that. If he or she drives you crazy for whatever reason, it's ok to mention that, too. Just remind yourself to be strong and not to take a "no" for an answer. If he or she starts off with "But we can make this work", just state your case.

Now be ready for an emotional car crash - nobody likes being dumped. There may very well be some screaming, cussing, and disappointment, and there may very well be some crying, and tears. It's important to keep in the back of your mind not to feel overly upset about it - almost everyone makes a bigger deal about it than it really is when they are still getting over the initial shock. Just understand that no matter how how committed the two of you were, your former partner will get over you eventually. Time really does heal all wounds.

One of the biggest breakup no-no's is not doing it in face-to-face conversation. That means you can't break up with someone via email! An email really isn't personal enough. Even if it is more inconvenient, it is much more accepted to break up in person than by other means. Who wants to split up on a sour note?.

To recap, breaking up is never easy, but at least these tips can offer you some guidance in handling this delicate situation.

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This article was published on 2010/04/04
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