How to get my boyfriend back will have been the only thought going through your mind for the last few days. No doubt you will want to try, and get him back, but your chances of success will be greatly increased if you have a well thought out plan of action to follow. Then you have to put the entire thing into operation step by small step.
I don't know where you and your boyfriend were in your relationship whether it had been falling apart for some time or if it was all going smoothly then in one catastrophic crash it all disintegrated but, what I do know is this, calm down, take a deep breath and don't worry! It is possible to get your ex boyfriend back all you need is to implement these initial steps and then I will show you where to go from there.
First you need to get some distance between the pair of you, right now you will both suffering emotionally and there will be a lot of stress between the two of you so if you can get some space for a couple of weeks.
Next you will need to open the lines of communication; if you have children then it is likely that you will have had to keep some contact going no matter how small.
Try to insure that any dialogue between the two of you is polite and considerate, do not get into any fights if a fight is obviously coming cut the call or leave the scene you are not going to indulge in a destructive encounter, try to keep it cool and business like.
Plan what you are going to say well in advance, sit down for a while and try to anticipate his responses, then work out exactly where you are going to direct the conversation. Consider all the angles he might use and be sure to have a counter ready for every move. You must control the situation at all times without being pushy or domineering.
Once the air has cleared to a point where you can have a civilised discourse, working together, try to analyse why the break up occurred in the first place, again no finger pointing or accusations be brutally honest and clinical about this.
You will both have to show a great deal of maturity and self control, but this is where you can truly find the solution to the past troubles.
If apologies have to be said then say them, even if you think you have nothing to apologise for say it anyway it will make him feel guilty.
If you need to forgive and forget then do it! It may be that whatever happened between you was so traumatic that you cannot forget, but if you can find it within yourself to forgive then you will save yourself a lot of internal heartache for years to come.
Most break ups can be repaired if you can hold simple civil discussions with each other, then you can talk things through.
Look, I know how it feels to lose the love of your life. I have been there and been through it. You can actually get your ex back if you just follow the right plan. It's not rocket science!