How do we build a perfect relationship? Is there an existing formula for us to be able to achieve such a dream? But is it really possible? Can we really build a perfect relationship where in nothing seems wrong and everything goes smoothly until the end?
Well, for me it doesn't matter. I was never aiming for the perfect relationship to begin with. For me, it is just plain impossible. It is human nature to be imperfect so why do we expect to have a perfect relationship? When you enter a relationship, you must be ready for everything. You cannot expect that there will be no arguments, no debates, no fighting and no challenges. That is just too boring.
Try to imagine a relationship where your partner never says NO to all you requests. He or she always agrees with all your decisions. You have no one to argue about who is right and who is wrong. It seems to be the perfect life at first but eventually you will realize that this type of relationship lack excitement.
I have given it a lot of thinking to somehow build a solid relationship. It doesn't have to be perfect but I wanted it to be strong enough at least for it to work through all the hardships that may arise. For it to work, there should be a secret recipe. And the thing that I came up with is Respect.
As per Merriam Webster, the definition of Respect is "A relation or reference to a particular thing or situation. An act of giving particular attention. High or special regard and esteem". But the way I understand respect, it is somewhat different. Respect is something that you earn. When you give it to others, you'll surely get it back. Respect is the fruit of your hard work; respect is something money cannot buy. Respect cannot be achieved overnight so you have to work hard to get it.
Why do you think it is valuable to know the importance of respect? Is it important in building a solid relationship? Well, definitely it is important. Once you give respect to a person, he or she will feel trusted. And we all know how good it feels to be trusted by another person. It is giving compliments to a person without actually saying a word.
When you create a relationship based from respect, everything that follows will be uncomplicated. The two of you will be at ease already. You will be comfortable with one another and this will make your chemistry better. Once you give respect, it is easy to gain it and then trust will come together with it.
The importance of respect in any relationship is as huge as the need of our body for nutrients. Your relationship is doomed to fail in the most painful way without it. This is because it is much essential for any person to be respected. This demand for respect actually intensifies more towards your partner. He/she would expect a much higher level of respect. This is because if you really love someone, you should show him/her the respect he/she deserves. Remember that with love comes respect but respect does not always come hand in hand with love.
Deciding to be with someone especially if because of love, equates, to you, giving more attention and respect towards your partner. Lack of this both will eventually bring down any relationship. This is how for me the importance of respect is measured in a relationship. Respect earns trust. Trust will build confidence. And confidence eventually would develop a solid relationship.