Why do you keep falling in and out of love? Are you riding the relationship roller coaster that takes you up as often as it takes you down? Does that roller coaster tend to immediately take the downturn as soon as you start talking to your boyfriend about taking your relationship to a more serious level? If this sounds like you, then you need to step back and re-evaluate your approach.
It's not that you are attracting losers. It's probably more along the lines of you losing out on what can be some real winners. Are you that girl that constantly criticizes big and small? Are you trying too hard to make him love you? In your mind, are you trying to make him a better person? In his mind, you need to be a better person. You think you are getting closer; he feels like you're driving a wedge between the two of you. Eventually, he will pull away and let the wedge turn into space.
What do you do once he has starts pulling away? Do you feel like you need to work harder on him? Maybe you go into overdrive pointing out to him that he should accept your criticism as a potential for relationship growth. Either way, you are hurting your relationship more than you are helping it. The space he has created is not an indication that he no longer loves you; it is his way of dealing with the drama you keep throwing at him. The more drama you throw at him, the more he's going to question whether or not he's willing to continue the relationship.
Three Ways to A Long Lasting Relationship
Tip 1 - Learn How to Talk To Him
A lot of times what we say is not as important as how we say it. Learn what communication style your man responds to. If your man shuts down when you start speaking to him, pay attention to your tone and what you are saying; it's obvious that he is.
Tip 2 - Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
You may be criticizing him for spending too much time under the hood of his car. If he loves to work on his car, why is it that you have a problem with him doing what makes him happy? If your problem is you wanting him to spend that time with you, maybe you have too much time on your hands. If your boyfriend is a dirty grease monkey when he's done, consider drawing him a bath and join him in it. Don't make him choose between you and the things that make him happy; you may not like the choice.
Tip 3 - Constant Learn About Yourself and Your Man
Learn how your man thinks without thinking for him. Learn how to talk to him, how to comfort him and how to encourage him. By doing these things, you'll find that what he wants is to be closer to you. Why? He will feel like you understand him, no matter what he does.